Pamelia Dahle (Phillips) Stallings

Pamelia Dahle (Phillips) Stallings, lovingly known as Pam, passed away on September 16, 2026, surrounded by the love of her family, following complications related to Alzheimer’s disease. She was a devoted wife, mother, daughter, grandmother, friend, and woman of faith whose warmth, strength, kindness, and love held her family together for decades.

Pam was born on November 19, 1952, in Shawnee, Oklahoma, to Thomas and Shirley Phillips. She was preceded in death by her parents and her beloved sister, April Darlene Phillips.

She is survived by her husband and the love of her life, Mark Stallings, with whom she shared 54 years of marriage; her twin sons, Mark A. Stallings and his partner, Leah Clark, of Collinsville, Oklahoma, and Geoffrey Stallings and his husband, Jose Martinez, of Oklahoma City; her honorary grandchildren, Taylor and Penny Burwell of Edmond, Oklahoma; her sister-in-law, Jane Graham of Oklahoma City; her brother-in-law, Barry Stallings and his wife, Shannon, of Tecumseh, Oklahoma; and numerous nieces, nephews, extended family members, and dear friends.

Pam met Mark at Shawnee High School in 1968, where they were both active in the band program. Music was an important part of Pam’s life from an early age. A gifted pianist, she played for stage band, choral groups, and solo performances.

Although Pam and Mark were in different graduating classes, they were only four months apart in age, and their lives quickly became intertwined. Mark graduated in 1970 and attended Oklahoma State University, and Pam followed him to Stillwater in 1971. Near the end of that school year, Mark proposed to Pam on the lawn at OSU. They married on August 19, 1972, beginning a lifelong partnership filled with love, devotion, family, and shared adventure.

Together, Pam and Mark raised their twin sons and built a life filled with cherished memories—family vacations, camping trips, celebrations, and countless everyday moments that became some of the most precious of all. Through more than five decades of marriage, they were true companions. As Mark so simply and lovingly put it, “Pam and I went everywhere together.”

Pam was her sons’ greatest cheerleader and encourager. She showed up for them, time and time again, sitting through countless soccer games and practices, piano lessons, recitals, contests, school programs, and everything else that mattered to them. She celebrated their successes, encouraged them through their disappointments, worried over them as only a mother can, and never missed an opportunity to tell them how much she loved them. Mark and Geoffrey never had to wonder how their mother felt about them. They knew they were loved.

Pam believed in her sons, sometimes even more than they believed in themselves. She often reminded them that there was nothing they weren’t capable of doing. And when life was difficult, she reminded them of something even more important: that Jesus was always with them.

Of all the gifts Pam gave her sons, none was greater than her faith. She taught them about Jesus and showed them, through the way she lived and loved, what it meant to have faith in Him. That gift brings particular comfort now. The faith Pam shared with her family assures them that death is not the end and that she is now experiencing the promise of eternal life—free from pain, free from worry, and free from fear.

Pam retired after 12 years as a Medical Assistant with Oklahoma Spine, Sports, and Rehab in Oklahoma City. But the work that defined her life most was caring for the people she loved. She had a natural gift for nurturing others and found happiness in being needed by her family and friends.

She loved playing the piano, especially hymns, and enjoyed traveling, dog sitting, babysitting, and spending quiet time with her adult coloring books. She treasured her family and the life she and Mark built together.

Those who loved Pam will remember her gentle heart, her deep faith, her musical talent, and the unwavering love she gave so freely. She was a constant presence in the lives of her family—the person who loved, worried, celebrated, encouraged, and cared for them through every season of life.

Alzheimer’s may have changed many things in Pam’s final years, but it could never erase the life she lived or the love she created. Her family asks that she be remembered not for the disease that eventually took so much from her, but for everything that came before it: her music, her laughter, her kindness, her faith, her devotion to Mark, and above all, the extraordinary love she had for her family.

That love remains.

Pam’s family extends its heartfelt gratitude to the physicians, nurses, and staff of the INTEGRIS Health Baptist Medical Center Burn and Wound Center for the extraordinary care and compassion shown to Pam during her final months, and to the caring staff of INTEGRIS Hospice House who provided comfort and dignity during her final hours.

A celebration of Pam’s life will be held at 11:00 a.m. on Thursday, September 24, 2026, at St. Luke’s Methodist Church, 222 NW 15th Street, Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73103.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you consider making a contribution in Pam’s memory to St. Luke’s Methodist Church.